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Moaning During a Blowjob

Camille Crimson is the model and webmaster of The Art of Blowjob. I love the photos she posts on tumblr. They are all really good sensual blowjob photos. I think she is very pretty and sexy.

Tonight she posted a question from a fan who asked why she doesn’t moan in her the videos when giving a blowjob.  Her reply was that she didn’t moan because she didn’t know anyone outside of pornstars who do that and so it feels fake to her.

I replied to the question but unfortunately I am not finding it on her tumblr so that I can link to the question and my reply.

My reply plus expounding on it a bit more. READ MORE

Humiliation - Part 2 of 3

Someone asked me if it takes the sting out of the words in vanilla world/context…

No it doesn’t. If someone in Wal-mart were to come up to me and call me fat, I would be very upset - not only hurt but pissed off. I wouldn’t be groveling back for more to that person as I often do in a D/s - SM context.

"Do you see humiliation and degradation as a form of emotional masochism? Is it that you enjoy feeling that awful emotional pain, and crave that?"

For me humiliation and degradation go hand and hand with emotional masochism because that is where my humiliation/degradation buttons are….being called worthless or fat is humiliating and also hits a place of emotional pain. I do crave and have strong desires to feel that awful pain of the words tearing into me.  I like hearing those things that tear me down. It turns me on.

"How is it a hot experience for you, and not something that emotionally scars you?" With Don - someone I was with when I was 18 - it emotionally harmed me. And I do think that some of my love of emotional masochism comes from my experiences with him. I was very timid and felt horrible things about myself after Don. But I think of those times now - and even in the moment of then - I was very turned on. I think it is intention of the other person that can leave me a mess verses hot. But even if I come out on the other side emotionally messed up….it doesn’t mean that it isn’t hot for me still. I will get into that in the next post more.  I just know that even when those things that have broken me to the point of long term repair needed - I still get turned on. I can think about the things Don did to me and feel all sorts of emotions but I am ready to go masturbate about it right now. As I said in my last post - it is a complex contradiction.

Humiliation - Part 1 of 3

It looks like tumblr isn’t importing my blogspot posts anymore…..hmmm….so cutting and pasting into here….

I have started and deleted probably about 20 posts on humiliation. I have owed a post to a group of people on LJ for months and months (since June just went and looked). It is the number one question I get asked to blog about also.

I really get turned on by humiliation. I like to feel that hitting my core and hurting me. It turns me on. Why…?  I am not sure exactly. And I am not sure I want to know why always either.  But it is the question I get the most often - why do I like humiliation?

It is a complex contradiction for me. Using this example….I was an escort who men paid money to be with - it was a big boost to self-image. They would pay money just to be with me. I felt sexy and very desired doing that. I know how Master feels about me and when others express their attraction, I believe it. It embarrasses me. But my point is I believe it…I know some find me desirable. I confident I know how to turn someone on.  Again I did get paid to do that. :)

So I can say all that and mean it and believe it…


On the other hand I know I am fat. I see the stretch marks and hear the things in my head that say… “you are not desirable. You are fat. You are not sexy - You are fat.” I can even twist the escorting things around saying they wanted to see what it was like to be with a big girl…(although I know that isn’t true for many of my repeat customers but I can still twist it.) And I can go on and on with the the negatives. And I believe those too.

I believe the good but at the core there are those other things whispered sometimes loudly. And so it is a complex contradiction that makes up me.

So why do I like to have those negatives used against me….

For one I think it is like the person who is saying them can honestly see me and still is here with me. He can admit those dark things said inside me and use it against me - but he isn’t walking away because I am fat. It is like that person is seeing the core. We have the good the bad and the ugly and he see the ugly.  The parts I don’t show to anyone.

Next I am an emotional masochist. I like to suffer and although I like the physical sensation of suffering - I like it often combined with the emotional pain too. I like to be brought to tears and hear and believe the things being said. It is like it is being torn from inside me and pushed in my face to see. It allows me to take those things I think and feel on the inside and see them almost differently or not really differently but out in the light instead of the dark.  It lets me at times let go of the things being said. Makes them not so big or bad.  Other times it doesn’t though - they stay right where they are at - the same feelings and thoughts I have had for a long time and will keep on feeling and thinking them.  And all the while I am crying and my feelings are hurt and the ugliness of the words are in my face….I am turned on. I so want to be pushed on my knees and suck his cock or pushed on to my knees and feel my body slamming into that mattress as I am fucked.

I am this way…I don’t know if it has to do with my trauma’s from my childhood or with Don (a relationship I was in when I was 18 that was heavy SM).  I just know it turns me on. And there is a fine line but I am willing to walk it.

Splitting this into 3 posts - next post answering some questions and third post going into walking of fine line of humiliation.

September Round Up

imageWhat’s been happening with the Domestic Servitude blog the past month? Here’s a quick snapshot of our September posts.

Peach Coffee Cake
Steak Marinade
Sausage and Potato…


imageI am so shocked….I knew he was really having a hard time of it. But I had hope. So it came as a surprise.

Flagg is someone who I am sure affected many people’s lives including mine. The…

Fall Cleaning

imageJust wanted to pop in to and say I am alive….

Last week we were in Denver. And the week before we were sick. Then while in Denver I started to get the cold coming back. So came home not…

Service Book of Days

I wrote this yesterday morning but forgot to post….so posting now.

* Outside my window…it is fairly sunny today after raining so much yesterday

* my thoughts…are on the tasks ahead of me…


imageSometimes Master and I have what we call Sunday Conversations. We discuss a question, topic or essay we found on the web. A few Sunday’s ago Master asked…

Which I thought was better -…

Just sharing...

2 great videos on equality….for marriage.


August Roundup

imageWhat’s been happening with the Domestic Servitude blog this past month? Here’s a quick snapshot of our August posts.

Maple Cinnamon Oat Bread - This bread has amazing flavor….

Follow Up

imageI had some questions from the last post. So I am answering them here….

Did you have aftercare? Did he follow up with you at all to make sure you were ok?

I am not big on aftercare -…

Crawl on my Belly

imageI woke up this morning from a dream. But it was a dream that actually happened to me in real life many many years ago. I remembered I wrote about it so dug it out….this is from November…

Words...Part 5

I have been doing this meme with some friends where they give me 5 words that come to mind to describe me and then I write about the words.

So here are some of the words I have been given and my…

do they hold onto your ID?

imageA question over at FetLife….about if your Owner holds your id.

My answer…
Master has my bank card, my drivers license, my ss card and other cards that have my name on them - such as my…


imageSomeone I was with before Master introduced me to punching, it wasn’t something we talked about at all before hand. He just did it. There was an unexpected violence and brutality to it that…